When you joined Jehovah's Happy Funhouse, you agreed to obey the Funhouse rules by submitting to the ritual of the Submarine Absolution Bath, otherwise known as BAPTISM.
No JW elder approaches a non-member and says, "The Power of Jay-sus COMPELS you to shun Sister Flrty!"
No Funhouse member has a gun to their head "enforcing" shunning.
When you joined The Funhouse, you should have been aware of what the rules were. If you didn't know the rules, that's on YOU, unless you were a minor.
So my answer is, "A henway."